We have been reading the book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Want to go back to the beginning of the series? Just click here.
We have made it to the end of Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson. It’s been a great journey, and I hope you got as much out of it as we did here at Crescent. This final chapter is called Ultimate Connection – Love as the Final Frontier. In this chapter. Dr. Sue Johnson discusses the “culture of separateness” that is beginning to form in our society.
She discusses the importance of bonding with others – we recognize that attachment is crucial for a child to develop properly, but seem to think the same isn’t true for adults. However, it most certainly is!
Overall, this chapter is short but powerful. Dr. Sue Johnson discusses some of the important lessons she’s learned from working with couples in all situations and from all walks of life, everything from “Our need for others to come close when we call – to offer us safe haven – is absolute” to “There is no perfect performance in love or sex. Obsession with performance is a dead end. It is emotional presence that matters.”
The chapter concludes with discussing a few ways that love manifests in our culture outside of purely romantic love – specifically, familial love and the impact it has on our society as a whole. She discusses how love can manifest itself through compassion to others, perhaps in the form of donation to victims of tragedy around the world, or perhaps simply reaching for a connection with a stranger.
Overall, this is a lovely way to conclude this book. We hope you enjoyed this book club – keep an eye out for our next book club series, coming soon!