Book Club: Hold Me Tight, Final Section, Part 2

We have been reading the book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Want to go back to the beginning of the series? Just click here.

We have made it to the end of Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson. It’s been a great journey, and I hope you got as much out of it as we did here at Crescent. This final chapter is called Ultimate Connection – Love as the Final Frontier. In this chapter. Dr. Sue Johnson discusses the “culture of separateness” that is beginning to form in our society.

She discusses the importance of bonding with others – we recognize that attachment is crucial for a child to develop properly, but seem to think the same isn’t true for adults. However, it most certainly is!

Overall, this chapter is short but powerful. Dr. Sue Johnson discusses some of the important lessons she’s learned from working with couples in all situations and from all walks of life, everything from “Our need for others to come close when we call – to offer us safe haven – is absolute” to “There is no perfect performance in love or sex. Obsession with performance is a dead end. It is emotional presence that matters.”

The chapter concludes with discussing a few ways that love manifests in our culture outside of purely romantic love – specifically, familial love and the impact it has on our society as a whole. She discusses how love can manifest itself through compassion to others, perhaps in the form of donation to victims of tragedy around the world, or perhaps simply reaching for a connection with a stranger.

Overall, this is a lovely way to conclude this book. We hope you enjoyed this book club – keep an eye out for our next book club series, coming soon!

 

5 Fantastic Florida Events (August 2018)

Summer is starting to wind down, but there are still tons of fun, summery activities to do, whether you love music, art or food. Check out some of our favorites below!

None of these catching your eye? Don’t worry – we have plenty of other ideas!

Paint Night at the Polasek – Winter Park, FL
August 3rd
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Learn how to paint a “Starry Night” scene, inspired by the Polasek’s Arabesque exhibit. Is there a better environment to paint in? One glass of wine is included with admission, and you get to take your masterpiece home. Don’t miss out on this fun date night!

South Beach Mango Festival – Miami Beach, FL
August 5th
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Mmm… mangoes! Enjoy this delicious tropical fruit and participate in tons of fun festival activities. This is the first year of the festival, so you’ll get to say you’ve attended from the beginning. Plus, Big Brothers and Big Sisters of Miami will benefit!

24th Annual Grape Stomp – Clermont, FL
August 10th-12th
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Enjoy tons of fun wine-related activities – everything from grape stomping to tasting! Plus, there will be live music, winery tours and more. A portion of the proceeds will benefit the Boys & Girls Clubs of Lake and Sumter Counties!

Blacklight Run – Tampa, FL
August 18th
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If you’ve been looking for a fun, energizing activity, this one’s for you! Run through colorful UV powder, and then attend a fun, blacklight filled after party – this 5K’s about more than finish times!

Blues Challenge – Gainesville, FL
August 26th
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Experience up and coming blues talent in a fun, competitive setting at the High Dive. The winner of this regional competition will move on to the International Blues Challenge in Memphis!

3 Reasons to Volunteer With Your Partner

Have you ever considered volunteering with your partner? Perhaps at a local animal shelter, working with kids, or perhaps building houses? If you haven’t, it’s high time that you give it some thought. Not only is volunteering helpful to those around you, it’s also helpful to your relationship! Take a look at 3 reasons why volunteering with your partner is an excellent idea:

1. Giving back feels good!

We’ll start with the most obvious reason – giving back to the community is a great way to get that warm and fuzzy feeling we all love. Doing it with your partner? Even better! Volunteering with your partner is a great way to raise your mood and make some really fun memories together,

2. See one another in a new way.

Volunteering puts you and your partner into a context you’re probably not used to – a context where you’re working together, outside of doing chores around the home. Whether you’re building houses for the homeless or walking dogs at a shelter, it can be fun and interesting to see each other tackle whatever challenges come your way Plus, there’s a great opportunity to build your teamwork and communication skills.

3. It’s a recurring commitment to each other!

Yes, there are tons of one-off volunteering opportunities out there, but many organizations are looking for a 6-12 month commitment when you sign up. It may feel a little daunting to commit to that much time, but it has a ton of benefits, like having a recurring few hours away from home with your partner. If you think you’ve been spending a little too much time on the couch watching Netflix, this is a great way to commit to changing that habit. When a non-profit is depending on you, it’s a lot easier to convince yourself to get off the couch!

Book Club: Hold Me Tight, Final Section, Part 1

We have been reading the book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Want to go back to the beginning of the series? Just click here.

We’re coming to the end of Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson! It’s been a great read, with tons of tips and tricks for having tough relationships and working through problems – and the final section is no different! It’s so full of great content, we decided to tackle it in 2 parts, which is how it’s divided in the book as well.

The first section is called Healing Traumatic Wounds – The Power of Love. This is a very powerful section. It discusses how the conversations throughout the book apply when one or both partners have been through a very traumatic experience. Though many of the conversations are applied similarly, seeing them discussed in context of one partner experiencing a trauma is very useful.

Dr. Sue Johnson states that “trauma is always a couples issue” – when one partner has trauma in their past, it almost always impacts the other partner in one way or another. The best thing to do is for the partner who experienced trauma to be open and honest about what they experienced, and how it’s currently impacting their lives. She mentioned that this is the opposite of how many people handle trauma – they prefer to keep it buried inside and not burden their partner. However, she cites a few studies showing that a willingness to discuss what the traumatized person is dealing with tends to lead to both stronger relationships and a stronger mental state for the traumatized.

The chapter is filled with scenarios and examples of couples facing all sorts of trauma, from assault to working in a dangerous job. We would definitely recommend taking a look if you or your partner has been through trauma, even if it doesn’t seem like it’s impacting your relationship now. It’s always worth having these coping skills in your back pocket!

Next week, we’ll be discussing part two of the final section of Hold Me Tight: The Power of Hold Me Tight. Stay tuned!

Our 3 Favorite Date Night Finds – July 6th, 2018

Our concierges spend tons of time researching the perfect date night activities. We figured, why not share some of our favorites? Of course, we’re always here to give you and your partner a custom date night recommendation!

  1. Nature at Night – A Magical Evening of Fireflies
    July 12, 2018 – New York City, NY
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    Does anything define summer more than fireflies twinkling in a field? This delightful date night is a celebration of all things firefly – it starts with a talk by Sara Lewis, author of Silent Sparks: The Wondrous World of Fireflies, and continues with a happy hour, artistic performances, and a guided firefly tour.
  2. Murder at the Conservatory
    July 27th – San Francisco, CA
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    Have you ever wanted to investigate a crime or solve a mystery? This is a great opportunity! With the beautiful Conservatory of Flowers as your backdrop, enjoy some light food, sip a glass of beer or wine, and try to solve the mystery of a mysterious manuscript that has surfaced.
  3. Culinary Competition for the Made In America Music Festival
    July 29th, 2018 – Philadelphia, PA
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    This is an awesome idea for a culinary event. Vendors will be competing for spots to sell their food at the Made in America music festival. Who wouldn’t want to be able to sample tons of food, all made by vendors performing their best?